Entries by Vicki Volper

Discussing College Funding in the Collaborative Process

I had the great pleasure of joining attorney Bob Opotzner on his Comcast show “30 Minutes.”  We discussed how the collaborative process can help divorcing parents decide how to fund their children’s college education. In a non-adversarial divorce, using divorce mediation or collaborative divorce, parents can effectively evaluate the legal, financial and emotional components of […]

Divorce and Social Security

In negotiating your divorce settlement, whether in divorce mediation, collaborative divorce, or otherwise, you will need to determine what your financial life will look like after divorce. In addition to dividing your assets and debts, you will look at your income sources and anticipated expenses to determine your monthly cash flow. One income source people […]

Automatic Orders and Divorce Mediation

  What are the Automatic Orders? The Automatic Orders are a set of rules divorcing couples must follow during the divorce process. They become orders of the Superior Court when divorce papers are served. They limit each party’s ability to, among other things, move assets, cancel insurance coverage, go into excessive debt and overspend. How […]

Divorce Mediation and Trust

Can I mediate my divorce if I don’t trust my spouse? I am often asked this very reasonable question. And the answer is that it depends. Here are some reasons why a lack of trust does not necessarily rule out divorce mediation. • Part of the mediation process is gathering information and discovering your family’s […]

Divorce Mediation Q&A with Eva Amurri

I am delighted to share my conversation with divorce mediation client, and now friend, Eva Amurri. I answer her thoughtful questions about divorce mediation and provide some advice for her many social media followers. Here is a link to Eva’s blog post about divorce mediation that includes our Q&A: HappilyEvaAfter

You Get What You Need

  My article describing the divorce mediation process was recently featured in The Better Apart Blog.  In the article, I compare the positions that divorcing people often take when they come to the mediation table and their true interests for themselves and their children. Understanding that distinction is the key to a successful mediation. Read […]

Online Divorce Mediation Works

  The COVID-19 pandemic has turned life upside down. Many aspects of life have been put on hold. But you do not need to put your divorce on hold if you choose online divorce mediation. Divorce Mediation, which involves honest conversations about intimate issues, may not seem suited to the online world.  As a divorce […]

Divorce and Co-Parenting in a Pandemic

As if divorcing and co-parenting weren’t hard enough. The Covid-19 pandemic has added a level of complexity never seen before. A recent New York Times article illustrates how divorced parents are struggling to make co-parenting decisions at this time. Some parents have legitimate concerns that their custody arrangement interferes with their ability to protect their […]