Entries by Vicki Volper

Mediation to Reduce the Stress of Divorce

It is common wisdom that divorce is one of the more stressful experiences that a person will endure. Children are not immune to the effects of stress. When children hear their parents fighting, their anxieties will rise. Even without actually hearing parents fight, children often pick up on their parents’ anxieties and begin to worry […]

The Right of First Refusal

When couples with children begin divorce mediation, we generally begin with a parenting plan. The parenting plan for divorced parents includes much more than where the children will live and how and where they will spend the holidays. A much negotiated issue in divorce mediation is what’s called the right of first refusal. This refers […]

How Long will Divorce Mediation Take?

  When couples are considering divorce mediation, they often ask me how long the process will take. It is a difficult question to answer when I have just met the divorcing couple. There are many variables that drive the divorce mediation process. There is a 90-day waiting period to divorce in Connecticut In the most […]

Should Couples Negotiate between Divorce Mediation Sessions?

Sometimes negotiation between spouses outside of divorce mediation sessions is a bad idea. Everyone is anxious to move through the mediation process quickly. It is natural to want to get this interim period over with. It might also seem that negotiating outside of mediation will save some money. Yes and no, for several reasons: Mediation […]

Divorce Mediation and the Marital Residence

For many couples, their home is their most significant asset. For that reason, negotiations over the disposition of the couple’s home often play a significant role in divorce mediation. Following are some of the key issues that a couple engaged in divorce mediation might need to consider: After the Divorce – To Sell the Home […]

Qualities Needed for Success in Divorce Mediation

  Are you a good candidate for Divorce Mediation? When I receive a phone call about divorce mediation, I am often asked whether the caller is a good candidate for mediation. The conversation often leads to a description of the conflict the couple is experiencing that is the immediate reason for their divorce. How, I […]