Online Divorce Mediation Works

 

The COVID-19 pandemic has turned life upside down. Many aspects of life have been put on hold. But you do not need to put your divorce on hold if you choose online divorce mediation.

Divorce Mediation, which involves honest conversations about intimate issues, may not seem suited to the online world.  As a divorce mediator, I am very sensitive to each participant’s body language, posture and demeanor. I was concerned that the online format would make mediation less effective.

The pandemic has forced us to give online divorce mediation a try.  Fortunately, it really works! There are even some advantages over in-person divorce mediation. Despite COVID-19, divorces can proceed successfully.

Online Divorce Mediation is Convenient

It can be difficult to schedule divorce mediation sessions around the parties’ work schedules. Now, most of my divorcing clients are working from home and have more flexibility. Participants can be more focused. They are not showing up to mediation meetings after a long day of work and a frustrating drive on I-95.

While it is sometimes a challenge for parties to find a private space for mediation sessions, most clients have been able to do so. Even if it means bringing your iPad into your car, most people can find private space for an hour or two of mediation.

Online Divorce Mediation Keeps Everyone Present

Divorce mediation sessions are held through video conferences where we see can each other’s faces very clearly. Sometimes, while mediating in person, a client will reposition their chair or physically turn away from the mediation process. In online mediation, I have not seen participants turn away from the screen. Instead, it increases eye contact and the connection between all of us.

The Uncertainty of Life has Pros and Cons

In divorce mediation, we begin by gathering information.  At present, asset values and incomes are in flux. While that creates some challenges, it also creates opportunities because divorcing couples may be more open to creative solutions. Since we do not know what the future will bring, we all need to be open to a variety of options. Because of COVID-19, many people have more time on their hands. This permits them time to focus on divorce mediation and thoughtfully reflect upon their values and priorities.

Call me at (203) 222-1202 to learn if online divorce mediation is right for you.